Yelling at our Spirit Guides

Whenever things don’t go right or you feel as if you’ve been steered in the wrong direction, do you ever find yourself blaming your guides? We often think that they should’ve given us a heads up before we tripped over that rock and did a faceplant into the ground.

Or perhaps whenever they are quiet and appear to not be helping us. Or when we surrender and ask our guides for help and they offer up nothing. Or they send us some song that has us saying, “For real?” It’s often something we don’t want to hear because we don’t want to look at it. Especially if it’s the same old information that they’ve been pumping into us for a while now.

I have found myself actually telling my guides that I’m all done. That I don’t want to hear from them anymore because they do nothing to help me. I’ve even tossed a few middle fingers to the sky while tossing in an F bomb or two or ten. Then I go to bed mad at them for not helping me out, for not guiding me and go to sleep…eyes puffy and all from crying.

And do you know what? The next day I wake up feeling better and more clear headed. Why? Because by tossing our hands in the air, or fingers, we essentially are letting go of whatever it is we are holding onto. Yes, giving up is a form of surrendering. This is the seat of empowerment.

Actually we didn’t really give up…we let go of doing anything further about it. This released us from the outcome. This then allowed our guides to step in and deliver a new perspective or change our direction. It was a necessary step in the process.

I often apologize and say I’m sorry for my unkind words or unladylike behavior and each time I get a similar response, they understand and they knew it was going to play out that way. And really the joke is on us.

Let’s see this from Spirit’s perspective. We’ve asked them for help. They’ve given us guidance, dropped some clues, hit us over the head with answers. But we’re so wrapped up in how things should be that we can’t hear or even see the information that’s trying to come through to us. So they sit and wait.

They wait and watch us spiral out of control. We are our own worst enemies and they know this and they tell us this. Spirit talks to each other and says that it’s time for a snack because “she’ll be giving up before too long and then we can get back to work”. So they sit on the sidelines of our movie and say, “If she’d only surrender. If she’d only ask for help. If she’d only get out of her own way…but pass the popcorn while we wait this out.”

But that’s what happens. We get angry at our guides for not stepping in but the reality is…we were stuck in a spiral and couldn’t hear them. Once we let go, surrender, give up our control of the situation, then they can work their magic once again.

And I always feel better the next morning. I often feel renewed, refreshed like a gigantic weight has been lifted from me. And that’s because it has. That’s usually when I get that Aha moment about what truly happened. Which is the reason why I’m writing about this.

If you’ve yelled at your guides, cursed them out or even tossed in a few middle fingers know that it’s ok. They truly understand. They expect it from us because they see everything. They see why we struggle before we even begin to struggle. They see what’s about to happen before it does. They see outcomes.

But don’t think for one second that they won’t get loud on you if you go to do something that might impact your mission on Earth. There was a time when I was 18 when I heard very loudly, “Put your seatbelt on” moments before we rear-ended another car. So there’s that.

But when we struggle, they are still with us waiting for us to disengage from the chaos of it all so that they can be heard by whatever means necessary. And that’s the other part, we must remain open to their guidance. If we don’t like what we’re hearing, we’ll block it out until we hear something we do. We’ve got to change that channel and allow all information to flow through to us so that we can choose the best answer for us.

Getting mad at our guides and yelling at them is a natural response to frustration, I’m sure they hear it all the time. I know I’m not the only one that does it. We are after all spirits living in a human body that has an ego, emotions and feelings to deal with. It can be difficult to sort through all of it.

But the true art form comes when we learn to let go and surrender. Because then we can hear the messages trying to come through and we can readjust accordingly. Just don’t forget to apologize to your guides for lashing out at them. It’s not their fault it’s ours and we need to take responsibility in that no matter what we’re feeling.

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  1. Amen to ALL OF THIS!!!! You know that I have these moments. This is such a truthful and humorous account of what our soul experiences along the journey in these human vessels. We have our moments and boy did I need to read this tonight. Mine have come to know when to be quiet now. Apologizing is a part of the relationship too. I love it and I love you 😍 🤗😆❤

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